Letters from Therese — Feel Good


The Routine Before the Routine... 1

Hello, friend!

Gosh, I feel like I could have just sat down and written you about 17 letters this past week…if I weren’t running at the speed of light. How’s your summer wrapping up? Any little vacations or weekend get-aways on your calendar? I feel like I have so much I still want to pack into the rest of August and it feels a little bit like I would need to cut back to sleeping 4 hours a night and eating on the run to make it all happen. Can you relate at all? Well, we both know that neither of those habits would have a good outcome so I’ve been searching for what else might make a difference.


Have you heard “the secret of your success is hidden in your daily routine”? If you listen to one of my favorite people, Terri Savelle-Foy, then you most certainly have. I am not new to hearing talk about routines, but don’t you find that most people talk about a good morning routine? I use to have a good morning routine and I can’t for the life of me figure out where it fell off or why. Granted, it fit in with what it needed to accomplish at the time. As I think about designing a new morning routine that works with life now I am finding that I need a good EVENING routine to make the morning routine successful. It can all look good on paper and a task list, but let’s take any kind of exercise for example. I am not very good at just “get up and go do it”. I’m sure after making that a habit I could do it much more efficiently. Do you plan any exercise in your morning? If you do, I’d love to hear what you like to start your day with. I use to get up and go to the gym and was more in “attack the day” mode. These days I’m a bit more crawl out of bed and start the day more calm.


So back to the routine. I like to do some stretching and some beginner yoga in the morning but I do all “on demand”. I found that if I wait until I get up to figure out what I am going to do I could scroll through videos…and waste a good 15 minutes right there. So I need to cue up the video at night. I do stretching from YouTube so I bookmark that and I do “on demand” for Yoga so I preselect that. I find that, even though, the athletic clothing is in 2 drawers about 5 feet from my bed, I am so much more prepared in the morning if I take them out the night before and lay them on the dresser ready to go. Is it weird that something so simple can still make such a difference in the morning?


I’ll admit, I am still discovering this “evening routine”. My husband, Allan, is usually out of the house around 4:15 A.M. and back home between 6:30-7:00 P.M. He generally tries to head to bed at 9:00 and is usually asleep when his head is still about 2 inches off the pillow. I hate to make 6:30-9:00 too much of a routine because I like to see if he’s still ready to run an errand or if he’s ready to camp on the couch. I don’t have a lot of time with him and if you know us then you know that where you see one of us you usually see both of us (outside “work” time). I generally like to go to bed when he goes to bed and am trying to get more on his schedule. Are you an early riser? If you are, does it just come natural or have you worked at it? I’d relish any tips you have!


So I’ve come to the conclusion that if I implement some things in my evening routine, Allan will probably do them to and we both can have good sleep and be ready to go the next day. I just got off the phone with another friend, Mary, and was telling her about this and she said “why don’t you start some of your routine a half hour before he gets home”? See, between you and Mary it is evident that I have smart friends! There are things I can do before he gets home like get my clothes set out for the next day, make my list for the day and do any prep that can be done like put stuff in bags for errands or to take to the studio, or plan meals for the next day. (True story… when it comes to meal prep I can go from mastering this to sucking at this and back again within two weeks and there isn’t much middle ground.)


There are things that I will save until around 8:45 for my final evening routine. During this time I want to do more “winding down” kind of things. Wash my face, put lotion and lip balm on. These, again, aren’t earth shattering things but I’ve read several articles that talk about how even simple things train your brain that it’s time to go to sleep and you rest better. Shutting off all devices earlier will definitely be a bigger challenge. I am usually adding things to “idea” or “to-do” lists when I think of them. My biggest obstacle to good sleep is shutting my brain down so I will let you know how it goes with doing all the little things that tell my brain it is time to sleep, not jump into creative mode for business.


So where are you at with all of this? Ready to create a good evening routine with me? Already have a good evening routine? Either way, I’d love to hear from you! I love good suggestions and if you’re challenged here too then we can check in with each other to see how it’s going. Seriously, if you have 5 minutes write to me. I’d be thrilled to hear from you! I will let you know next week how my evening routine is shaping up and then we can chat about a morning routine. That is a whole other topic!

Side note: Doesn't the photo look dreamy? I can relax just looking at it! 

Photo by Eddie & Carolina Stigson on Unsplash

Have an amazing day and until next week I am sending you much love!


The Message Confuses Me! 2

(Wow! Had to come back to the top after I finished and write this disclaimer. Promise me you’ll either quit reading now OR you will read to the very end. If you quit in the middle you might decide not to let me be your friend…and that would break my heart!)


Hi, friend!

Do you listen to any great podcasts? (My Journalism PR major daughter would probably slap my hand off the keyboard for starting with a question. Ha!) Well, if I am in my car I am probably bingeing podcasts all the way. I drive almost 30 minutes to my studio everyday so I can get a good hour in. I love to listen to all kinds of podcasts… spiritual, personal growth, business, more business and the, of course, natural beauty! (Feel free to share your favorites with me!)


I was listening to a podcast yesterday and found my mind wandering several times. After hitting the button to skip back thirty seconds about THIRTY times {slight exaggeration!} I finally hit pause. The podcast host and guest were talking about “aging positivity”. It was their feeling that terms like “anti-aging” are degrading and should no longer be used. I get what they were saying but the more I thought about it they missed the mark a bit. So first, I have to ask… how do you feel about the term “anti-aging” when it comes to seeing that on your skin care package or advertisement? I mean, isn’t that what most women want when it comes to our skin?


Not to get to “skin-sciency” but there are elements (environment, stress, poor diet, poor sleep, poor hydration…you get it) that are prematurely aging our skin. Don’t we want something that has an “anti-aging” effect? So it’s 2021…how do we say that now? Why does it feel like we need a whole new language recently? Do you have kids? I do. Mine are 24 and 26 and it is irritating when they (their generation) take a word that I have said all my life and twist it to something I should no longer say. What the heck? I looked up a word in the Urban Dictionary after I said it and my kids responded “don’t say that anymore”. Why? Why did you take my perfectly innocent word and MESS. IT. UP? Ok, that is actually not even my point when I sat down to write to you so I’ll get back on track.


So now we are supposed to say “aging positivity”. {Insert huge eyeball roll}. Before you think that I am totally “anti-aging” let me explain. I am all for aging! There are a few things that we experience as we age that I’m sure we would live without right? Like taking a few steps to work the kinks out when you sit crisscross applesauce too long. What about hoping you don’t pee when you sneeze or laugh too much (please let that one be further down the road for me). Or maybe adding progressive lenses? (Thank you whoever invented the LASIK procedure that I just had touched up.) But seriously, you couldn’t pay me enough money to go back twenty years. I was really not that smart! I rather appreciate the wisdom that comes with aging. I appreciate the life experiences that come with aging. I love that I have gained confidence in who I am and what I believe after this many decades around the sun. I will take all the knots on my head and keep right on moving forward, thank you! What about you? Would you roll back the hands of time even a little bit? Sure I would do some things different, but the lessons only seem to come from the times of a little more pressure or discomfort, or even times that just flat out suck!


So, you get my point that I am not against aging. I am, however, against the stinkin’ things prematurely aging my skin so can we just agree that we will keep the term “anti-aging” when it comes to skin care? Alright, you’re not going to believe this {or maybe you ARE}…but this still isn’t my point. Just a rabbit trail!


So back to the podcast and having to shut it off because I wasn’t listening. The thoughts that kept rolling around in my head were more revolving around everyone wanting to add the word “positivity” to everything. You’ve seen it, right? Everything is about “body positivity” now. What really bothers me, speaking from my years of wisdom J, is that as a holistic health coach it doesn’t make sense. I get what they are saying…but I don’t know that it’s having such a “positive” outcome. Promise you’ll not only hang with me for a minute but that you won’t delete me. You’ll read next week, right?


The whole “body positivity” is around being comfortable with the skin you’re in. Agreed! But it doesn’t go far enough. It is used widely around more “voluptuous” women. Here’s my thing. What do you think when you see a person who is so thin that you’d guess they are either ill or maybe have an eating disorder? If you’re anything like me, your heart SINKS for them and often times I say a prayer for them walking past them. I want so badly for them to be healthy! Would you ever expect to see a photo of that sweet person on social media with “#bodypositivity”? I don’t think so. First everyone would do like we’ve all done and trash society and the fashion industry for promoting eating disorders and an unnatural, unhealthy body. Soooo… why is it now that we celebrate the serious issue of a nation that is seriously overweight and obese? (That was more of a bomb drop than a mic drop. EEK!) Does your heart break as much for the overweight person as it does the malnourished person? What irritates me is in this “positivity” is that I think they are trying to say “any size is beautiful”. I think they are absolutely on the mark with promoting that beauty and loving yourself doesn’t have to do with you waist measurement or your bust measurement…or any other measurement for that fact.  I don’t care what your weight is… you should LOVE yourself and there is beauty in every single woman. YOU are perfectly and wonderfully made. Do you know that? You are totally loveable! I could camp here for a week, but I gotta get to the end of the point.


So we agree that we are lovely, right? If you don’t then call me at 763-232-5855 and I will tell you how amazing, lovable, and valuable you are. Not kidding! Here is what I won’t celebrate. I won’t celebrate overweight and obese the way that it seems some are trying to make it the new trend. I won’t celebrate the unhealthiness of obesity any more than I would celebrate the other eating disorders (yes, overeating is an eating disorder) of anorexia and bulimia. And I have been in and out of several category many times. I have felt what overweight feels like and I have felt what healthy feels like. Healthy feels so much better! But you know what? I loved myself regardless of if I was healthy or overweight. The LOVE and the HEALTH are two separate things! How do we lump that under “body positivity”? Do you get what I am saying and that I am NOT trying to be offensive at all? Being a health coach for over a decade (not actively coaching but always bingeing info) my heart about jumps out of my chest when I get to give someone information that would make them healthier. Wouldn’t you love to create the new definition of “body positivity” to be “what you look like when you fuel your body well, move your body well, and rest your body well is perfectly and positively YOU.”


What do you think? Can we start a movement where we can encourage people around us to LOVE themselves and feel beautiful no matter what, but strive for a healthy body to run this race of life? There is nothing positive feeling about inflammation that comes from excess weight. There is nothing positive about a poor diet bringing on type 2 diabetes. There is nothing positive about not being able to move well and enjoy life. (Again I could go on but refrain.) It simply doesn’t feel good and allow us to squeeze every little drop out of life. How about we spread “Love ourselves always…and strive for a healthy body”? Now that is POSITIVE for a mind and body!


BTW… I am selling nothing but if you EVER have any questions about how to begin a healthier journey simply use the same number as above, my friend, and you get some of my time with no strings attached. I am on this journey of striving for a healthy body to fully enjoy life with you!


Oh, and here’s to anti-aging skin care! Woot Woot!! I promise my next letter won’t be from on top of a soap box! I really do hope you will write me back and tell me what you think. I love great perspective from smart people around me and engaging conversation too!


Sending so much love and praying so much good health over you!